My wife and I are working on a book on marriage, and this vision has been on my heart for about 18 months now. God challenged me in prayer in June 2015 to love my wife using all five senses. Strange, really, and I had a lot of time to think about how relevant this is to every marriage. I will be writing about marriage and relationships each Monday, some will be better than others, but writing causes you to focus on something important. Heather and I believe we are called to lead and impact marriages and families wherever God brings us.

Marriage Monday is here, and I hope God speaks to you through it all. God gave us five senses to deal with the world around us and for some who have lost one or more, the opportunity to impact others with those that are stronger in us. Focusing on the senses is not an ethereal matter; it is as real as it gets when it comes to marriage. What is interesting about a study into how the senses are satisfied in a marriage is that the male and female perspectives have some common ground, they simply materialize into different emotional, physical, mental and spiritual boxes for each gender.

When I was challenged to engage my wife in regards to sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch, my mind went everywhere. I penned a note in my journal that said this, “God, just help me to find a book or someone who has gone before me in this specific journey.” It was because I could find nothing that specifically tackled it, and a few days later I wrote this in my journal, “So I believe God is telling me to create the journey and then write about it ourselves… SCARY!” Often, God challenges us to do something that has not been done before, and I say this because I would never want anyone to carbon copy our marriage. However, truths are applicable in every situation just the method may change.

Our family mantra is:

complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. 3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:2-4 ESV

It is much too easy to live life by your senses, but never be the captain of those very senses. It takes a real man and real woman to acknowledge the needs your senses create, but direct them with a Christ-like mind. So meditate on the scripture above and ask God where and how to apply it. We will go deeper each Monday.

Prayer: Remove selfish ambition from my marriage and start with me, Jesus! Show me how to put my spouse ahead of me, and reveal authentic humility so that I can clothe myself in it. I want to be the essence of Jesus to my spouse, and only your Holy Spirit can empower me to do just that. Jesus, you believe in my marriage, so I believe in my marriage too. In Jesus name, amen.