John 15:15 is an interesting passage and often the subject of modern Christian apparel and vernacular. Jesus is my friend! I love that aspect about walking with Jesus, but let’s remember that Jesus said this to his disciples at the end of His ministry when they walked through a discipleship process. I would be robbing God’s people if I told them that “Jesus is your friend” right after they gave their lives to Jesus without letting them in on the discipleship process.
John 15:12-15 tells us:
This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. 15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.
The discipleship of Jesus was a process and a tough one at that. Jesus instantly had his disciples working from the start of the relationship and challenged the first disciples in Matthew 4:19.
And he said to them, “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.”
A key to the process, follow —> make —-> fishers of men. In other words, our obedience affords the creation process of who we are supposed to be. The word “make” in verse 19, is the same word from Genesis 1:26.
Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”
Jesus told a group of Jewish males that if they followed Him, Jesus would CREATE them into what they were not. He would do the impossible in and through them. I love this! As believers, we are created into this status of a child of God, but the only way to be a child of God is to follow him. We need to drop everything and surrender to him. This is the discipleship process, and it is never easy, but only God can do the creation aspect of this relationship.
You remember the Jesus is my homie movement? Then came bobble head Jesus that said yes to just about everything. Jesus is not my homie; he is my King and Savior. Jesus can call us friends when we have heard from Him and obeyed (vs. 15).
I want Jesus as my friend because I want to do the will of God. Otherwise, we only want a ticket to heaven or at least an escape from hell without the road of discipleship that God wants for us. When we follow Jesus, we submit our authority to Him, and He then will make us (create us) to be more like Him.
His love for us is so deep and goes to all lengths to meet us where we are at, but as cliche’ as it sounds… He does not want to leave us there. Jesus no longer called the disciples servants, not because they stopped serving, but because they knew the plans of the master. Servants never know the plans of the master, friends know and do the plans of Jesus.
I am a Getting Things Done kind of guy and for those who understand what that means, good. For others, Getting Things Done (GTD) is not just a mentality or attitude we possess, it is an efficiency system of task management and life management that was first pioneered by David Allen. His book is fantastic and can get you started re-thinking your life management, but he has a shorter, quick overview ebook as well.
In a nutshell, you get used to making lists in life that include the following:
- Next Actions
- Waiting For
- Maybe or Someday
The idea is this, stop holding all those ideas, tasks, pictures and creativity in your head waiting for them to happen or for you to recall them when the time is right. The first rule, write down everything. Like a reporter carrying around a notepad, have an app on your phone, notebook, etc. and just write it down. Second, place it in one of these list headers I listed above. Third, do a mind sweep at the end of the day, every day and put these ideas into proper categories and lists. What this simple practice does is free your mind to be anxiety free, and not always functioning at near capacity. You can trust that the idea is where it needs to be.
Now that was the shortest GTD system lesson ever, but my real goal in this post is to recommend some digital and analog resources for a GTD system. If you are the type that needs the old pen and pad the GTD system may be a bit cumbersome at first, but once you get the hang of it, efficiency is around the corner. The problem is that I have not found one particular planner that works for the system entirely. So for my analog buddies I recommend the following:
Analog Only: Moleskin Classic Notebook and Self Journal
So I would write all my inbox, maybe and waiting for stuff in the Moleskin Notebook much like a chronological journal and then daily use the Self Journal for Someday, Next Actions, and Projects. The Self Journal forces you to work in 13-week increments with goal setting in mind so you can be aggressive about your Somedays and not put them off.
What I Do: Nozbe, Moleskin, Evernote, and Self Journal
That being said, I end up coming back to digital as my main avenue of task management and do a combo of digital and analog. So this is how I do it currently. I use Nozbe as my digital inbox, next actions, and Projects (tasks). I use a Moleskin Cahier Journal for analog inbox and notes when typing is not an option. I then use Evernote for everything else including a journal. Evernote syncs with all your devices as does Nozbe, so forgetting a pad somewhere is no longer debilitating.
The point is to get everything out of your brain, consuming time and energy, and freeing you up to focus on the moment. Now go ahead and
Get Things Done!
The subject of living in freedom could not be covered in a simple blog post, but I wanted to continue from my post about shame yesterday. We have two choices to respond from, shame or freedom. The gospel is freedom and Jesus portrayed living in freedom best. Have you ever felt you had two choices when making a decision, but one was so far out of reach because of your circumstances or relationships? Freedom affords us choices, shame affords us a single choice and eventually shame will cover the presence of freedom, as if it were not available.
Our response to the call of God is a great example of living in freedom. For instance, Moses, was called back to deliver the Jewish people out of the hands of Egypt. When he was confronted by the burning bush and found out it was God, here was his response:
Come, I will send you to Pharaoh that you may bring my people, the children of Israel, out of Egypt.” But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the children of Israel out of Egypt?” Exodus 3:10-11 ESV
Moses was quick to identify himself before the Lord in verse 4, but he then proceeded to question and delay the proper response to God not just once, but four times. He asked God to send someone else and shame has that effect on us. We tell God that it cannot be us He would use, but it must be someone else who is more prepared, more outgoing, better dressed, has more money, and it goes on.
So what does a freedom response look like? Jesus was a pure example of freedom, but there are two instances we can be encouraged by. First, Jesus defended the adulterous woman in John 8:1-11, and from what we know, the woman was clearly adulterous. When Jesus was tested by the crowd and religious leaders about what should have been done, Jesus responded in freedom. You see, freedom is not concerned with just your own welfare, it is concerned about others just as much. Our concern for others should be Christ-like, not performance-driven, trying to win the hearts of men with your decisions and actions. Jesus wrote something on the ground with his finger twice and challenged anyone without sin to cast the first stone. Everyone left and Jesus challenged the woman to “go and sin no more.”
Freedom allows you and I to see the pain or indecision of another and give them encouragement and grace. It allows us to have a Jesus-like response in the face of accusation and hostility. Jesus gave us another great example in the Garden of Gethsemane. He was going to die on a cross and he knew the coming future all too well. When faced with the stress of the cross, Jesus said this:
“Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done.” – Luke 22:42
That is a prayer of freedom. Freedom is not the ability to make whatever decision you want despite the consequences to you or others. Freedom is the ability to make the right decision free from shame and clouded judgment. Freedom is us truly identifying with Christ and being free from the shackles that sin puts us in. Shame reminds us that we are sinners with no hope, freedom proclaims that Jesus is risen and at the right hand God, interceding for us before the Father. (Romans 8:34)
Not every Christian is free from shame, most of us will struggle with it in some capacity from time to time. Our freedom is promised and your relationship with Jesus affords it to you.
I read a book some years ago called Free Yourself Be Yourself by Alan D. Wright when I first came on staff at Christian Life Center. At first, the title made me a little squeamish because I am not into touchy feely books or content, or that is what I tell myself. The freedom I experienced after reading that book were quite amazing and applying the principles to my life became a pursuit over the last two years. Shame is crippling and, like me, many of us would never think that we filter our entire lives around shame.
Most of the time, the word shame is saved for altar calls, or part of some incredible testimony of deliverance from addictions, freedom from sexual abuse, etc. However, most people suffer from some grip that shame has on them.
Shame Is Contagious
Much like a virus, shame spreads easily and is passed down within the family unit, workplace, education system and even the church. The only way to stop the spread is the gospel because shame is a primary product of separation from God. It started in the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve hid together instead of running to God.
Shame Is Motivational
Let’s face it; we can react to things in one of two ways: in freedom or shame. For instance, your child spills his plate while standing in line at a church potluck and it lands on someone in front of him. As a parent, you have one of two filters to respond through. You could shame your child and take a public discipline approach making sure the adult the child spilled on feels like the punishment fit the crime and show how embarrassed you are. Or, you could politely apologize or hint to your child to apologize and then work together to clean it up and comfort the child that is was an accident and offer kind assistance or payment for the outfit cleaning of the spill victim. Shame motivates behavior, response, and emotions.
Shame Damages Relationships
In my spill illustration, if the child is shamed publicly, the effect is damaging. I am not saying that children do not need correction or discipline, they need it and it is biblical, in a loving and graceful manner that has restoration in mind. This is not a post about discipline, but about the shame filter. When you create an atmosphere in a relationship that is motivated by shame, both parties fall victim to the shame filter. I remember as a child that if my father, grandfather, uncle approached me in anger, I would flinch or cower. My parents or family never abused me physically or even emotionally, but I knew that anger meant there was only one last place to go to. I deserved a butt whooping as a kid, but the point is we do not have to verbally teach our children to learn shame responses, it is built into us because of our sin nature.
Shame Deflects or Absorbs
You need to read the book I mentioned to get a full picture of the shame we often live with. For those that may seem confident in life: shame causes us to live in self-preservation mode, and we defend our position to a fault, alienating relationships, forcing our authority where it was not needed. For those who lack confidence: shame causes you to retreat, to accept incoming abuse as deserved and to settle for less. Get two people who react in shame, and you have a full-blown battle of deflection. If a wife is verbally shaming her husband all the time and the husband just takes it because that’s the way it is, it is unhealthy, and both have a shame reaction. The wife is the active ingredient, and the husband is the catalyst, coming together to form a creation of bondage. Shame is often associated with the one taking the abuse or garbage, but the one giving it is living in shame just as much. I even wrote that illustration as an example of the shame that readers may even react with. You may have thought, “Why did he choose the wife as the aggressive one.” and I would answer in freedom, “because it’s my illustration.”
Shame Is Not Leadership
I am still learning this point in my life. I remember growing up, and coaches, teachers, pastors and leaders would often use public humiliation and shame to lead people. Words like, “You embarrass me” or “If it were me, I would have done it differently,” “Are you stupid” and the list goes on. When we lead from a position of shame, we are coming from a position of weakness that only elevates you once someone else is down. When we lead from freedom, we come from a position of strength that pulls people up with us. I find that leaders who are overprotective of their churches, ministries, departments, etc. are often dealing with shame in some way. Jesus never told his disciples to make disciples and then bring them back to the church in Jerusalem since that is the only church approved by God. No, Jesus gave them a systematic approach to spreading all over the world. Shame tells us that if someone speaks better or has more people under them, that we should talk bad about them, find faults and warn everyone how much better you are. Eventually, shame takes us from protection to isolation, to destruction. Let’s lead from freedom, the freedom that Christ gives us.
I will write about the freedom side of the battle tomorrow, but I would challenge anyone who has not read the book, to do so, you will benefit greatly. Also, take some alone time and reflect on how shame has influenced your choices, your life, etc. There is hope, and that hope is Jesus.
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Our staple as a couple for the last 14 years has been the weekly date night. The principle of setting aside time for your spouse could be done in different ways than we chose, of course. Here are the reasons behind our choosing to fight for weekly date night and why encourage others to consider it:
- It supports communication without distraction
There is nothing better than having a deep discussion about life with your spouse when a child busts into the room. You each become the focus of the time you are spending together and sets the stage for growth.
- It places tangible value in my spouse
Whether you decide to go to a fancy dinner, a simple walk in the park, or any other dedicated activity, your time and effort places value in your spouse. It feeds the confidence in your relationship.
- Gets my wife out of the house
The fact is, my wife homeschools our children and spends every day working hard at home. She needs time to leave it all and recharge with an adult conversation with no familiar voices in the air.
- Gives my children security
My wife and I were a family unit before our children ever came into the world. Our children are welcome members of our family and will always be, but they need to know that my wife is the first relationship to be nurtured. My children have confidence that Mom and Dad are good, so all is good in the world. Of course, date night is not the best or only method to bring marriage security to your children.
A date night is a set time aside with no distractions for you and your spouse. A date night is not a double or group date with other couples. Those are great, but not a date night. My wife and I will bring some ideas about Date Nights next week.
One of my favorite topics to discuss, teach and learn is task management. However, I only use that phrase because life management has not caught on as a buzzword. First off, the idea of task management is a compartmentalization that is far too funneled down. Simply put, one must learn to manage their life so that task management would even make sense.
I remember working with certain individuals and introducing the company or church software we use to manage tasks and day to day operations. For myself, it is simple and makes life less complicated, but for some others, it is their worst nightmare. Some people like the old ink and pad, some digital and others like to live so free that they try to keep it all in the head. For the professional, the old noggin is not recommended.
Whether I have been called in as a friend over coffee or paid to consult a corporate department, the issues that arise in task management all boil down to some simple causes. The fact is that your department, family, church staff, etc., are made up of people, and people are complicated. If real leadership was merely creating duplicates of yourself, the 80’s corporate mentality would still be strong and active. Now, if you do not have an espresso machine, 23 stage water cooler, and pizza Fridays, your staff will be distracted from accomplishing the goal. While I would love to solve that issue, I digress. In my experience, here are some common problems that arise with Task Management.
Dictatorship vs. Coaching
We can chat about the good old days, where the boss says “jump” and all the employees say, “how high,” but that would be ineffective today. Whether you understand millennials or not, they have changed the landscape of the workplace, including the church. So when you are trying to run a department, company, or church with efficient task completion you have to keep in mind that you may have three generations involved at one given time. The systems available out there are not broken; usually, leadership is.
Done are the days of telling people what to do and then coming back at the deadline to collect your reward. Any coach (sports, life or other) would tell you that you should consider this method:
- You do, they watch
- You do, they help
- You help, they do
- You watch, they do
This method is nothing new, but we must consider the methods by which we lead people. I will write more about coaching versus dictating at another time. I bring this up because I have found this to be a major contributor to ineffective production on teams.
Duplication vs. Multiplication
Duplication is a serious problem on many ineffective teams. I would encourage you to read some books on multiplied intelligence; it will be worth your while. If you come into a room and it gets quiet, you ask for ideas, and you end up answering your own requests, or when you give your opinion, everyone else just starts to agree, you have a problem. The idea of little mini-me(s) running around our department, office, or church staff can be tempting at first, but you will soon realize that you are creating a dangerous co-dependency within the intelligence of your team. They will lack passion and drive; tasks will drop off and eventually it will effect the entire organization like a virus with no antidote.
Learn to multiply the intelligence in the room with each meeting. Listen more than you talk. Pat people on the back for a good idea and end meetings making the whole team understand that they did it together.
Life Management is Poor
Let’s face it, how can we expect to manage our work tasks efficiently when we are juggling the rest of life by the seat of our pants. Our nutrition, health, finances, marriages, family and friendships, and hobbies all affect our peace of mind. If your life is all out of order, but you expect that once you hit your work desk, that a well-oiled machine is about to begin, you have another thing coming. As a leader, you should look for opportunities to coach others, speak into the lives of those you lead.
In a corporate atmosphere, you may not be able to create Bible Study moments, but you can impact the lives of those under your supervision. First, manage your own life. Can you come to work knowing that you can focus on what you are getting paid to do and produce? Manage your life in a way that allows you to have a clear mind and heart and then coach your team to do the same.
Task Mangement is subservient to Life Management, get better at managing life and task completion will become much more efficient.
I was asked why certain posts had Daily Reading on them. These posts are based on my own personal time each morning, although it may be from days passed.
For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Romans 1:21
This verse begins a heated debate that did not even exist 20 years ago in the mainstream Christian church. While I will carefully break down why homosexuality is a sin at another time, it is important to realize that all sin against God has a beginning. Futile thinking has a monopoly on secular society and I fear that we, the church, have become futile in our efforts to bring light to the darkness. Again, another topic for another day. This morning, I intend to simply provoke us to honor God and thank God and the importance of this position in our lives.
The Apostle Paul tells us the slippery slope possible when we do not honor God or thank him. Paul is not referring to a single individual here, but like any study, what applies to a group can often be boiled down to individuals. First, let’s break down thanks and honor. Honor is not a thing you do first thing in the morning and then go about your day; rather, it is a daily commitment to live your life in a way that reflects the love of Jesus. Honor is a loaded word and I think a quick biblical study will show how we truly honor God.
What Does It Mean To Honor God?
Verb: δοξάζω (daxazō) – to praise or glorify
It always means “to have or to give a share in”. 1 Plain and simple, to honor God is that He has or has been given a share in your life. This is not just words we express or a confession, but an active lifestyle that God would be honored by. So while it seems that Paul may be saying the futile thinking came because they did not thank God each morning and then honor him when we scored a touchdown by pointing up, it is deeper than that. It really describes the relationship aspect, and this small word study should then be attributed to our other relationships that call for honor (parents, spouse, children, leaders, etc.)
Daily Challenge: Wake up every morning, thanking God and setting a course for honoring (give it to Him, sharing with Him in it) Him throughout your day.
1 Gerhard Kittel, Geoffrey W. Bromiley, and Gerhard Friedrich, eds., Theological Dictionary of the New Testament (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 1964–), 253.
My son comes into the house one day with wet boots all over the floor, jacket half open, no hat and his hands are filthy. This is what I see, that and red, all red. I have issues with cleanliness that I need to get over I am sure. My son is crazy excited about a cool rock he found in the great outdoors, with no concern for his health mind you. This is the tone that is in my head, and the tone that is in my head orchestrates my heart on the issue like a puppet on strings. I wish I had the “awesome dad” reaction that would cause Hollywood to write a script about it. I did not; instead, I lost it. I elevated to a yelling tone about what he did by bringing his boots wet through the house, how his jacket should be closed in such weather and how filthy he was.
His face was a window to his heart at that moment. He looked crushed and ready to bolt away and I let him. See this story gets no better for my reputation. I continue to work on my project and had very little conviction about reaction initially, because I was too busy and the noise of life spoke louder than the Holy Spirit at that moment. About a half hour later, I went to hug my son as I normally do throughout the day and realized he had some apprehension. Instantly, it hit me like a ton of bricks, I crushed his spirit.
Immediately, the Holy Spirit gave me such an illustration that it broke me. He showed my how I am often like my son and I come in broken, messed up, just a tad crooked and off course, but I brought my best at that moment and he was pleased with me. I immediately sat my son down and asked him to forgive me and my son was quick to forgive and we had a great conversation about cool rocks. The thing is, most of the time we know better. I understand tone can dictate the course of a relationship immediately and over time. Here is what Paul had to say about moments like this:
For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17 So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18 For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. – Romans 7:15-20
I will write about parenting and discipline some other time, but I really felt the need to focus on leadership in the home and how much tone is a stage for that leadership. Fact is tone is a stage for leadership in any setting, not just the home.
Tone is a showcase of your heart’s current condition. If we are honest we all lose it sometimes, but what is it that flips the switch for you? I know for me there are some key warning signs for my poor tone and here are some of them:
- Poor Devotional Time
I often find myself apologizing and repenting when I skimp out on what is important to me, Jesus time. I quickly read the Bible plan I have setup and get moving with the day instead of taking to time to pray, worship, read and then write it all out in my journal. This will cause me to revert to my flesh in times where I could have been much more sensetive to others and the Holy Spirit. The fact is I cannot be Christ-like without the Holy Spirit and none of us should try.
- Lack of Organization
I get overwhelmed when things are not in order, and perhaps I can be a bit OCD about it. I know how to be organized and even find myself being quite good at it, so those moments where things are not in order, I break a little. My OCD aside, our lives require a level of organization that allows us to focus on interuptions and other things with little stress. You may only need to know when to eat and sleep and life is great. That is fine, but find your level of organization necessary to clear your head for a healthy heart.
I have plans, ideas, and dreams and then my son walks on them with muddy, wet boots. That is excessive, and my son never did that, but when we are fighting self-preservation, that is the filter we see things through. Self-Preservation tells us that we are the center of the universe and all things must revolve around us, and we will do what it takes to keep us comfortable.
There are so many other reasons, but these three are my top conditions for unhealthy tone in my leadership. What about you? What are some things that you have to set in order or focus on to maintain healthy leadership tone?
I am under obligation both to Greeks and to barbarians, both to the wise and to the foolish – Romans 1:14
In Christian circles, we use the word “call” often and just like the word love, grace, mercy, worship, and Christian, these words can start to lose their power in the English vernacular. The Apostle Paul was writing to the Christians in Rome and telling them how he desired to visit them. He then defined what we refer to as a “call” as an obligation.
Challenge yourself to substitute the word “obligation” for “call” each time. It will have a significant impact on your life and the choices you make. We may even be slow to designate our calls and ask God to confirm all the more. The word obligation is much less ethereal. It means something of a formal contract, an action required by promise or vow. The original Greek describes an obligated as “debtor.”
When God calls us to something specific, it becomes an obligation. Much like when we consider debt, we still have the choice to pay the debt or avoid it, but it is a debt just the same. This can be difficult to process when we think of the grace of Christ, but the grace and mercy have more to do with relationship than occupation. You see, Paul experienced the full grace of Jesus, and now he is under obligation to reach the Gentiles so they can experience the same. The call of God is by no means a grace-filled journey, your relationship with Jesus is. The call can be rough; it can tax us beyond what we can handle, and this is because we cannot do it on our own. The obligation is a partnership between Jesus and you, where Jesus carries the heaviest weight, making our burdens light.
My blog is focused on the whole life of a Christian, so I will write about products I believe in or avoid from time to time. My wife and I homeschool our children, and they accomplish much of their school online with Alpha Omega Publishing’s Monarch software, which is entirely online. I will probably write a rave review about AOP sometime soon, but today I wanted to recommend a family filter and parental control software for the household. I will compare Net Nanny, Circle by Disney and Qustodio.
Basis of Reviews
What was important to my wife and me was parental control over usage. I can find content filters anywhere, but we needed control over time, content and down to the apps on the computer itself. We also have 13 devices in the house if we include computers, mobile devices and gaming consoles. We have four children and they schooling is entirely online, so we have six computers in the house at any given time. We need a software that will not slow down life, make it impossible to do daily tasks and work as close to our expectations as possible. We also are an Apple Home; we have 1 PC, and 1 Android and rest are Apple.
2nd Place Net Nanny
Net Nanny also does not control device usage if the apps do not use the internet. This would be fine, but when my son decides to play a game on the computer instead of schooling, this could be a problem. This was our top reason for finding another solution.
Another problem was that time usage seemed to have some bugs that added quite a bit more time than was used. We discovered this with some controlled tests on some of our Apple Computers
Net Nanny PROS
Cost Effective, Great Filtering, Great Reports and Notifications
Net Nanny CONS
No Non-Internet App Control, Mobile device implementation, Time Control, No Way to Shut Down device usage entirely.
3rd Place Circle by Disney
This device came out last year with a bang! It is a small device that can connect to your home network via wifi or ethernet. I recommend you use ethernet, as the wifi function will significantly slow down the entire home internet. Circle had a very similar service to Net Nanny but only on home wifi or the internet. Once a mobile device left home, no filter. If you want, Circle offers CIRCLE GO for a monthly fee of $9.99 per month for up to 10 iOS Phones; Android support is still in the works. The problem is that you pay more for Circle Go than you would Net Nanny or Qustodio for all your devices including mobile devices. Still worth the price for protection.
What we loved about Circle was the ability to boil down reports, filtering and time limits to apps on the device, but only specific ones initially and then you could block anything that you see in the reports. The user interface was much friendlier than Net Nanny and Qustodio. Any changes you make to the parental controls are close to instant, where both Qustodio and Net Nanny had a bit of a delay.
We honestly loved Circle, and it would have had made 1st place had it not been for the biggest issue we had with it: Internet Interference. There would be times where the whole house would be down, slow speeds, or issues with sites that typically work fine. We did tests to ensure it was not our service provider or hardware, but each time we removed the Circle from the mix, everything returned to normal. We understand that speeds can be affected by the parental control software we decide on, but this was excessive. It would often block sites that had a secure certificate that Google had problems with including the schooling site we used. This was not acceptable for the Morans.
Cost Effective, Great Filtering, Great Reports and Notifications, Decent App Control, Great Interface, Screen Time not just Internet Time.
No mobile control outside of the home without separate subscription, no current Android solution, Internet Interference.
1st Place Qustodio
We have been using Qustodio for about one month and the function is very similar to Circle, but the setup is much like Net Nanny. Circle requires no software install, but Qustodio must be installed on all computers and mobile devices. We would rather this because the phones filtering works everywhere, not just at home.
The control features are in-depth including social media, app and software usage and device block. When I know one of my children are ignoring chores, I can tell the system to block all usage, and the computer will do nothing until I see the chores are done. This is a nice feature. I have not experienced any slow down or strange internet issues with Qustodio. The cost is nice, with a coupon code it cost me $65 per year for ten devices but standard pricing is similar to Net Nanny. The Mobile App seems to do limited function and then forces your phone to log into the website to do the rest. It would be valuable to have all reports, features and notifications come from the app itself.
Cost Effective, Great Filtering, Great Reports and Notifications, Good App Control, Great Interface, Screen Time not just Internet Time, Device Block, Mobile filtering and control everywhere, Plans for schools and business
Interface could be better, iOs function not as deep as Android